“Males shouldn’t be jealous; that’s a female trait” —Jay-Z
It’s not hard to tell that ‘a female trait,’ by Shawn Carter’s reckoning, is not something that a male would want to have. Simple psychology would’ve told him that men experience jealousy, too. Despite the fact that rappers (and their verses) are made of 15% truth, 59% BS and 26% cotton, I’ve heard men actually regurgitate the above line as fact.
Come to think about it, I’ve never heard any positive sentence followed by “like a woman.” Only negative connotations coupled with derogatory euphemisms for women. “He’s ranting on Twitter, acting like a b*tch/woman/p*ssy!” No, he’s acting like a salty man. Because he is one.
Whenever I’m having a conversation and I hear those words, anger melts my smile off my face. It’s a conversation-ender for me. In a nutshell:
Women do not hold a patent on emotions; men express them, too.
I have extremely little patience for explaining to people that logic and emotion are not mutually exclusive, that men and women exhibit both in different situations. When a woman screams and yells at her boyfriend to listen to her, she’s emotional; but when a guy screams at his 48″ TV, “He was FOULED!” he’s just a sports fan?
As Jay-Z also said, We don’t believe you; you need more people.
Given the dismal image “like a woman” usually projects, I thought it would be fun to start a personal revolution of sorts. Maybe the reason I’ve never heard a positive statement ending in the phrase is because I’ve never said one.
Here’s my little list. Feel free to join me and add your own affirmations in the comment box, or tweet me your lines using the #LikeAWoman hashtag.
What do you do #LikeAWoman?
I love fiercely and deeply #LikeAWoman
My family knows they can count on me to take care of them #LikeAWoman
I make logical decisions and choices for my life #LikeAWoman
If anybody threatens me, I will fight just #LikeAWoman
I split infinitives and spit definitive truth onstage #LikeAWoman
I occupy ALL rooms (not just the kitchen) #LikeAWoman
Yes, I’m complicated, #LikeAWoman, but there’s no such thing as a simple man, either
I would move heaven and bust hell open for my sisters #LikeAWoman
I laugh from the wells of my belly #LikeAWoman
My mama taught me not to take no mess #LikeAWoman
I walk with sugar in my sway and spikes on my heels #LikeAWoman
I write #LikeAWoman